i keep it a hunnid (100) with y'all so don't expect anything less when it comes to this post...
It's summer time and boy 'ole boy.. I AM SO GLAD TO BE HOME. In the south, the summer is full of festivities! We know how to have fun and just enjoy each other. All the college kids are home and just about everyday I receive a "WYD today?" text message or "what's the move ?" text message. There's never a dull moment!
But you know who hit my line the MOST!? The dudes that have GIRLFRIENDS or aggy baby mamas! Everyone knows that I DO NOT deal with the baby mama drama or dudes that are taken, which results in me being single.. but I'm okay with that... However, other women could care less if you have a girlfriend or not *shrugss* some women know their "place" whenever dealing with a dude and don't complain. However...I'm not one of those women but it took me a while to get in the state of mind that I'm in today.
Nevertheless... Let's be realistic for about 5 minutes.
There have been many times that I've come in contact with other young women who are struggling in their relationships. The two main issues that their relationships lack is trust and communicating within their relationship. But you know what's funny? 9 times out of 10, the lack of trust and communicating has already been established before the relationship is even inituated. We already know what kind of dude we're dealing with but don't care to be real and I know because I use to be the same way. As we all know! Women have this FBI ideology and manage to dig up any dirt / information on her potential boyfriend. I've done it and still do! It's okay to try to figure what you're getting yourself into. Consequently, we discover some information that we DO NOT want to know but can't erase what you've already found. *shrugs*
See, here's where we go wrong....
We FIND DIRT! But still accept the dude with the dirt! *SMH* You know that he's a cheater because his ex just exposed him on Facebook! You know he doesn't want to do anything with his life because he's always on Instagram "posted up" with the boys! You know that he's abusive because you've heard about him in the streets but yet, you accept the dude with the dirt.
And as soon as that dirt comes to light, issa wrap. I know so many young women who get into altercations and fights because of their dude they're associated with. And may I add, fighting is NEVER the way to handle things, especially over somebody's son that's doing YOU wrong!!! Instead of fighting the side-chick or main, which ever one fits you personally, you need to check with your boyfriend *shruggs*
If the signs are there, don't ignore them! You'll end up looking stupid and regretful..
It's almost like we set ourselves up!!! We already know these dudes for everybody but still try to give them the benefit of the doubt & that's how we end up broken hearted. We listen to Trina's hit single, "SINGLE AGAIN" or even better, Kashdoll "For Everybody" just to feel like we've "bossed up" but in reality, shawty hurtinnngg! In reality, somethings that happen to us can be controlled! And if you can detect an unhealthy relationship stray away! Don't try to sit and figure out ways to change a somebody's son. They'll only change for the woman he WANTs to change for, until the, he's going to do him.
In conclusion, if he gives you ideas that he's for everybody, not loyal and entertaining other females. 9/10 he's doing just that sis.