Since Valentine's day is right around the corner.... This is my treat for all the "uncertain" situations LOL
This blog will be short, simple and SWEET! Getting straight to the point :) *DISCLAIMER* I AM NOT BASHING MEN! Now, lets begin :) As a young woman it is easy to get distracted by the many Adams on this earth that we call MEN. For me personally, I have experienced many different situations that correlate with guys and their various antics. However, this blog isn’t about my specific situation but it is about how to play the game. If you haven't noticed, guys usually think that when dealing with someone the opposite sex, that it is a GAME. IDK who came up with this theory but I have found it to be true. And the only way to successfully NOT get your heart broken is to play the game even better. Now, I am far from being an EXPERT, however, I think I have several tips to play a successful game with the opposite sex. Here are a few tips:
Feel out the situation. Make sure that both of you all are on common grounds. This will eliminate any misconceptions or confusion. If he just wants a "situationship" and you don’t, make that clear! Find out his intentions from the jump so you won’t get any surprises!
Expound on what your morals are and what you strongly believe in. Doing this creates boundaries!
Make sure he has goals! You don’t want someone who doesn’t have goals or anything to work towards. No bums around here sis :)
Have a strong mind. Men tend to know when you are weak. Whenever they notice weakness they can possibly take advantage of that! ( not all men do this but some of them are guilty of doing just that!)
Lastly, remember that he is not your priority. If there is no ring on your left finger, (your husband) then he is NOT a priority. It’s okay to be selfish with yourself! Always remember, no one will love you as much as YOU love YOU! No matter how much he may tell you.
Now that you have the simple guidelines, lets talk about how to interpret a dude. They are known for giving mixed signals and sometimes are bad with communication. Just remember, DON’T FORCE IT. If he does not want to communicate, first emphasize to him what he is doing, he might not realize that he is wrong. However, if he continues the same behavior…. Do what you feel is best!! Don’t allow the situation to become a priority. I know personally that it is easy to allow your mind to drift off and think about the issue,but honestly it’s not worth it. Especially if you are younger than 21. It is best to keep your mind on your goals and what is more important. My generation is so stuck on obtaining "relationship goals" . Unfortunately, people forget the importance of self-love and acknowledging that it is okay to be SINGLE. Dudes come and go sis! Remember that :)