"Never explain yourself to someone who does NOT deserve an explanation." - A.Linx
For the longest time I use to feel like I knew what real was... that I would be able to differentiate between REAL and FAKE. I was WRONG!!! It wasn’t until I got into college that I was introduced into REALISM 101!
Throughout my highschool career I was surrounded by different people and different attitudes. Unknowingly, I was surrounded by people that picked and chose when they wanted to keep it “A Stack” or keep it a Hunnid (100). When I got to college, I surrounded myself with people who know nothing less than real and I appreciated that. In August 2016, I entered the college life and I must say, it was a total eye opener. I was able to actually find myself and learn who I was as a person. I now know what REAL is! However, it has not always been that way! Allow me to explain to you exactly why…
Before moving to Maryland for college, I attended a highschool in a city in Georgia. In the hallways of this high school is where the old me belonged. The “old me” was naïve, easily persuaded, and just wanted to make the people around me HAPPY. I later discovered that you can not try to meet everyone’s expectations and try to satisfy their needs, it's unnecessary. Throughout high school I was always seen as the leader, the girl that others looked up to. I noticed this but I did not want to accept this responsibility. Simply because I was lost in the sauce, lost in all the leadership roles I took. I was the Queen for my high school, president of the Debutante club and active in several other leadership positions. I was on a pedestal, leading others and even seen as the “prototype”.
Now that you know a little background about me, it is time to introduce to you my experience with the FAKE! You know that song Drake recently put out? Fake Love? That song speaks to me because I have experienced fake love first hand. I had people tell me that I’ve changed since I’ve gotten to college. That I am more out spoken. That I have created this nonchalant attitude. All my “friends” started to say I was acting different but in reality I was growing as a person! I was becoming the woman that I am today. Once I realized that I was “different”, the conversations were different. The vibes were different. It was time to cut people off and honestly, I did not feel bad about it at all. No one could make me feel bad about cutting people off that weren’t benefiting me. It seemed like people wanted to be there just because they knew my potential. They knew that I would make a name for myself one day and that success was my only option. So because of the potential that they noticed, it seemed like they only wanted to be around me when it was beneficial. Basically showing, FAKE LOVE! Unfortunately, I noticed not only were my “friends” showing me this fake love but family members as well. I cut family members off as well for the same reason, fake love and negative vibes. I don’t know about you but I can pick up on vibes QUICK! And if the vibes are uncomfortable…. Well, you know the rest.
Once people show their true colors believe them the first time. Never apologize for growing as a person! and Never explain yourself to someone who does NOT deserve an explanation. If people are not in your corner encouraging you, what are they there for? Being NOSEY? Most likely! Some may say that I’ve “snapped” on them and I can’t disagree. However, my snap is different from others. I snap by simply cutting you out of my life through ALL sources. That means we are not friends on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, etc. I don’t need the fake love or attention; I have other issues to deal with. Word of advice, if someone is showing you the fake love/attention, do something that will benefit you, CUT people off if it benefits you as a person! And never feel sorry if it is benefiting you as an individual.